DEAR ABBY: My husband puts everyone first before me. An example: We were invited to his aunt Diana’s 50th wedding anniversary. His father was their best man but couldn’t make it due to illness. So, at the last minute, my husband was asked to sit at the head table with his aunt and her husband.

At his aunt's anniversary party, he makes no effort to have his wife join him at the head table, then doesn't understand why she's hurt and embarrassed.

So, at the last minute, my husband was asked to sit at the head table with his aunt and her husband. I was not invited to do that, and my husband didn’t ask if I could sit with them. The room was full and there were no other seats for me,