My husband died, I became a widow and I quickly learned how grief-illiterate society is. There is so much shame attached to grieving, and more often than not, it doesn’t come from judging or shaming ourselves, but rather because others shame us for how we are grieving and living after someone we love dies. As a widow, shame imposed on us by society can look like this:Being too sad.Being too happy.Dating too soon after a spouse’s death.Waiting too long to date after a spouse’s death.Going on vaca